In addition, my Dad is funny and I laugh easily so our relationship has hardly been unstable. In many ways, I see myself as a mirror of my father (and my mother too, don't worry). He is hardworking, motivated, focused, and carries a high level of integrity. He has opened up my spiritual self so much. Without his guidance, I never would have learned about eastern philosophy and meditation, both huge parts of my life. Now I am the one who drags his butt to yoga. He has provided me so many opportunities, always making activities available when I wanted to pursue them. He drove me to my acting classes--very long drives away--started my singing lessons, and has taught me priceless lessons on economics and business (and how to use Excel!). Maybe none of this seems to have any depth for you, but for me it is perfect. I like a balanced life of academics and athletics and my Dad provides that.
One memory I especially enjoy is whenever I was very little and I used to cry because I stubbed my toe or my brother made fun of me. I would just go to my Dad and hug him wiping snot and tears all over his cotton shirts and I would gasp for air. And to calm me down he would always say, "Okay now take deep, deep breaths, in and out, in and out, focusing just on your breath." And then he would settle me down and by the end when I was hiccuping from the big breaths, would evoke laughter out of me.
Another fond memory is being four years old in my old old house and sitting next to my bed as my Dad had me meditate for the first time. I remember during the meditation thinking how easy it was, not really understanding the depth of what I was performing.
Overall, each father brings something different to the table for their children, but I think they are so essential in life. They provide that balance to a mother's stern role and I think that every man should have the joy of nurturing and teaching a child the other parts of life outside of cooking and singing. So go home tonight and be thankful for your father, alive or not, because they helped put you on this earth and whether you carry fond memories or not, their presence in your life taught you something beneficial. Goodnight all!