But, my frustration tonight really got me thinking. What causes it and what could be a solution?
Frustration is the result of impatience, perfectionism, being a bit spoiled, and lack of appreciation (or so it seems in my case). Sometimes things just aren't meant to work out our way. Maybe the fates are determined to not let us finish up something, like me and this article. Frustration can be caused in business situations or when we mess up at school. But, the real marker of success is when we rotate that negative energy into a chance to become determined. Determined that we can surpass our feelings and succeed with what we set out to do.
We don't have to try to be perfect beings and suppress our feelings. We don't even have to control them. Not even anger. I just think that the biggest impact of all comes when a second before our reactions burst, we notice what is surfacing. It is so hard to do, especially with anger because we just want to explode, but I think that if we become aware of our emotions before they arise it can alter the outcome of scenarios.
In my situation, maybe noticing my frustration would not have helped me make the internet move faster, but it would have calmed me down more quickly to allow myself clear thinking that maybe I should move downstairs to where I know I will be successful.
And sometimes a little frustration or anger is good because it reminds us that as Bo Bennett put it, "Frustration, although quite painful at times, is a very positive and essential part of success." It makes us take a step back and analyze where we are in our lives. And along these lines it brings me right back to that little thing called appreciation. Maybe someone like myself gets frustrated because I have so much it is painful to bear living without it. I love getting my way. I have hardly known what it is like to not get my way. And this feeling is scary because I love control. Exactly what I crave and thrive on, another half of myself is working to dissolve. It is a pull-and-push process.
And thinking about appreciation I realized that maybe I never will know what it is like to be suffocating. Maybe all I have ever known is uncomfortableness. But, it is my uncomfortableness. And we all have it. Learning how to rid ourselves of whatever hardships come our way could be defined as resilience or as I put it, another way of becoming realigned with ourselves. It doesn't have to be fancy. Honestly, today when I went down to the beach and was wading in the water, all alone, breathing in fresh air, I felt vast appreciation. I was soaking in the sun and happiness that I was just in that place, just in the moment. It didn't matter that I was in the lake in my suburb, it could have been in a pond, but at that time I wasn't thinking. I was smiling just because I was.
So a cause of these negative emotions could be forgetfulness, or better yet a pull away from consciousness. We forgot our place and misstepped a bit off the path of perfection (yes, because the universe is perfect). And that's okay because there really isn't a definitive solution to easing ourselves of frustration. All we can do, all I do to successfully overcome this feeling, is take a deep breath, observe my actions, and realize that it is all part of a larger lesson I am learning. See as someone once told me,"Whenever I suffer I almost feel like I'm cheating because I know that it is for a greater purpose, so I just experience it and let it play out."
So along the lines of what I was originally going to post, when we get angry or frustrated I think we should use that negative time to force a smile upon our face, even for a second!!-- to remember all that is in our lives (and trust me there is plenty) and to return to the moment of now. Once the smile disappears we can return to our frustration and anger because it is another part of living. We only have a brief flicker of time here so learning to get ahold of and moving past agitating emotions and back into a positive space, is powerful stuff.
Anyways, I think that's enough philosophical talk for one night. This journal entry (oops, I thought it was a post?) ended up actually bringing a smile to my face because despite all the trouble it took to get here, I finally pounded out my thoughts. I apologize for not having written an article earlier this week, but these things have to come to me. I can't just sit down and write daily because then I am not really putting in value and quality into the product. And I feel like my words should carry some weight with them, not just be one of those posts you force yourself to read because I am putting it out every day on a schedule. On that note, in the next couple of weeks or so along with my regular posts, I am going to be doing my own commentary series. I will post it here and in the paleo page. I recently went through Diabetes magazine and found some recommendations I would really like to argue against with my own brain and solid studies. So that will be coming out in pieces since there is a lot to unpack. Other than that, life is swell on my end. Picking up and heading to Greece tomorrow so maybe my next few posts will be inspired by that as well :)! Have a great night everyone and remember that feelings are just that, another part of our brain, not our souls, which are happily fulfilled with the daily breath of life. So breathe and don't forget to enjoy.