Anger is a natural response to something unpleasant. It isn't man-made because even animals in nature get mad at their children or themselves when they don't catch a prey. But the difference between animal anger is that it is a raw reaction whereas in humans it is a ''response". This is because we have the ability to alter our behavior based on rationality. When one realizes what is inappropriate it can halt that impulse that animals can't contain.
Simpler beings get mad because their ego feels like it must defend something, stand up for its pride. When people get angry, it's ugly. A negative energy comes out that is now in the air for others to absorb. It can ruin relationships forever and create hatred.
When I get angry I have learned not to hold on to it because that holding on stays in your energy and stays in oneself. It takes careful observation to note that one may not have emotional control, but it is important to realize that we always have control over our actions. So if we get angry, we must bring ourselves back to that loving, clear, and conscious space that's not dictated by our narcism but is an expression of our capacity for living with dignity and freedom. Even if others cannot move forward, by dwelling in that place of awareness we move the energy away from the negative and slowly even the other people's anger will dissipate.
As the famous Zen master Dogen wrote:
"Midnight. No waves, no wind, the empty boat is flooded with moonlight."
When we "empty" ourselves of vein fantasy and ignorance, we are filled with the radiance of the moment--like Dogen's boat full of moonlight.
So it isn't always about changing the outside world; it's about changing the way we orient ourselves to it. It's about making ourselves available to more than our own immediate agenda. This is why practicing mindfulness is so important. When we contact the present moment, we transcend our self-imposed limitations, all the unnecessary dwelling on what was or what will be. In THIS moment life unfolds; and this unfolding is the most precious of gifts, that is why it is called "the present."
What will you do with this wonderful gift?