What is the purpose of life?
Maybe, it's none of our business.
Because in thinking about these things you have moved away from where you should always be: conscious, aware, and present in the moment. One of the hardest things for me to accept is that my feelings don't have to dictate my actions. Just because I may feel sad, doesn't mean I can't put effort into enjoying a family dinner. In fact, when I bypass these feelings, not ignore them, but notice them and move on to the moment, I feel better by the end of the night.
I used to think that attachments made life better, something even as simple as a friend, because they were there to support you and make you laugh. And don't get me wrong, friends and family are crucial to feeling internally well, but I realized that these relationships were becoming the only medicine to make me feel well. That I needed other's to pick myself up and continue to move forward. This shouldn't be so. You should be able to completely depend on yourself for true happiness and then look to others as mere additions to your joy. And so I learned to do what needs to be done like cooking and homework without the aid of others. Yes these are simplistic tasks, but I realized that I can't ever fully rely on others. They can only be there temporarily, while I am with myself forever. If you can depend and thrive off of yourself, then you have achieved an ultimate state because so much of our lives today is ruled by what other's think about us: Do I look fat? Do they like me? Am I doing good enough?
If you look for other's approval, you are setting yourself up for failure. You will never feel accepted by other's because they are dealing with their own situations as well. All of this discomfort caused by feelings is eliminated when you stay present. It's not to say we should be numb to our surroundings, but having the ability to return to awareness after something hits us, is powerful.
That's all my stream-of-consciousness mind can conjure tonight. Rest well :). BHN.