I always like that quote. I don't know if that's exactly how it goes, but that's how I heard it. Living in the US we have this ingrained perspective, this perspective of success. It is not okay to sit back and let things fall upon you. You must go out and work and finish college and make money and get married AND live in a nice house... And there's nothing wrong with motivation and working hard, but there needs to be a balance...
We get mad and frustrated a lot and I see many families loathing, but this is senseless. We have been put together as a unit for a reason. Families should be there to support us when we laugh and cry, to push us, and to nourish us. Holding grudges means you are holding in anger internally and this also means you are holding on to the past; well the past isn't tangible. Neither is the future. It is right now. That's it. That's all we will ever have.
So a question I find myself asking quite frequently and usually before bed is, "Are you happy?" because if the answer is no then obviously I am doing something wrong. In all the actions I choose to do, they should be done consciously to grasp why I have decided to act. We haven't been brought into this world to suffer. Although suffering will occur, we are here to experience. We should smile everyday and do something our body asks us to do like be outside. We should go to a job we love because we know this fulfills our being and positively influence's others. It shouldn't be for value or money, those are not everlasting. And that doesn't mean life won't carry an uncomfortableness to it. But, it is in this uncomfortableness where we learn our most precious lessons. If you are one of those people that drinks a mug of black coffee to get to your desk and types on your computer all day just to go home to a dark room every day and you don't feel good, but alone, then something is wrong. Maybe this unhappiness is showing you that yes, you have financial security, but do you have internal security? And maybe what you need to do is let go of that financial security, yes embrace uncomfortableness, to get past those physical needs, and fulfill your being. We should take each day with great appreciation because where-ever we are, we are so lucky to be here, alive and experiencing such a fascinating world.
On that note I'll leave you with another of my favorite quotes, " Hold on tightly, but let go lightly."